Module 3: Denial

Hello, I’m Sydna Massé, author of the book, Her Choice to Heal: Finding Spiritual and Emotional Peace After Abortion and the Founder and CEO of Ramah International, an outreach organization designed to offer the hope of healing to abortion’s wounded around the world. 

Denial is a wall of protection that a woman puts up in her heart in order to cope with the emotions and memories that follow an abortion. This wall is often built with bricks of guilt and shame. Society provides bricks, mortar and even laborers for the job. 

The bricks can be grief, guilt, shame, avoidance of the abortion topic, etc. The first brick was laid when abortion became an option. Another section of the wall was built during the abortion itself. Bricks are added over the years to make the wall taller. The wall serves as a buffer zone to keep us safe from the memories of losing our children and our pain in ending their lives. 

You may have been denying the truth about the child lost during your abortion. Just as the wall of denial is built slowly, the wall will probably come down slowly. It may take days . . . weeks . . . and even months. You’ll think it is gone, and then you’ll find another pile of bricks. 

Give yourself time to dismantle the wall of denial. Dig deeper into the information available on HerChoicetoHeal.com. Read Chapter 3 in my book, Her Choice to Heal.  When you complete the lessons in this “Denial” module, you’ll learn more about guilt, shame and how these emotions may have impacted your life. You will also learn how to address them. 

Our prayer is that you will realize God’s perspective, as revealed in Jeremiah 29:11-13For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.

5 Stages of Denial

In the typical life cycle of an abortion decision, a period of relief immediately afterwards is quite normal. This relief is often temporary.

Dismantling Denial

The denial after abortion process is tricky to maintain because it’s deeply dysfunctional! We often take one step forward towards healing and then twenty steps backwards.

Guilt Versus Shame

Guilt and shame are very different.  They have different faces depending on the circumstances surrounding the abortion decision.

Bible Character: Peter

The Bible is filled with examples of people in denial, not just to God and others, but to themselves as well. In this module, we will read about Peter.

Abortion’s Anniversary Reminders

On the day of my aborted child’s due date, I found myself crying all night. As I applied a hot washcloth to my eyes, I began to believe I was losing my mind due to some unknown reason.

God’s Perspective on Denial

Here are passages of Scriptures that address God’s love relating to our emotions of guilt and shame.

Denial & You

Perhaps you’ve been denying the truth about your abortion. Just as the wall of denial is built slowly, the wall will probably come down slowly.

3 Common Mindsets After Abortion

Post-abortion healing often begins when post-abortive women take the tentative step to exit their self-imposed prisons of secrecy to reach out for help.

Life After Abortion

Think about your life since your abortion. Using the list of Abortion PTSD symptoms, identify those that could be impacting your life as a result of your abortion.
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Her Choice to Heal Online Abortion Recovery Program

Hello, I’m Sydna Massé, author of the book, Her Choice to Heal: Finding Spiritual and Emotional Peace After Abortion and the Founder and CEO of Ramah International, an outreach organization designed to offer the hope of healing to abortion’s wounded around the world.

Ramah International is pleased to offer the Her Choice to Heal abortion recovery course free of charge to anyone who is struggling after an abortion decision.

Each of the 9 featured modules addresses an emotion of abortion pain, providing information and comfort along with healing activities designed to produce enlightenment and peace.

This spiritually based course incorporates Biblical passages relating to abortion pain to begin to connect individuals to God’s unique healing process.

This site is free for anyone to use and the Ramah International team is always available to help you process your emotions as you work through each module.

The Ramah team is dedicated to protecting the confidentiality and identity of anyone using this course. We will never share any information.

You can take this course independently or involve the Ramah ministry team for deeper support at any time. Ramah International’s team has over 150 years of combined experience in abortion recovery ministry. We consist of lay-ministry leaders who have helped many receive God’s healing after an abortion.

This course has one strongly recommended resource – my book, Her Choice to Heal: Finding Spiritual and Emotional Peace After Abortion. This resource is often referred to in this course. You can purchase this book in both audiobook or paperback formats.

Ramah International is a 501c3 ministry that offers tax-deductible receipts to those who financially support our efforts. Please consider donating to support us and help underwrite HerChoicetoHeal.com in reaching abortion’s wounded hearts with the hope of God’s healing.

If we can help you in any way, simply contact us.

Healing Starts Here

Abortion PTSD

In this introduction module, Sydna Masse, author of the book, Her Choice to Heal, provides the hope of healing to post-abortive individuals and an overview of this course. There is also an assessment test and an outline of Abortion PTSD (or post-abortion syndrome) included.

Sharing Your Story

Sydna Masse shares the story of her own abortion and also outlines the impact of Abortion PTSD on her life. This module begins the process of revisiting abortion memories and taking the first steps towards God’s peace.

Denial’s Impact

Denial is a wall of protection that an individual raises to cope with the emotional impact of an abortion choice.  Module 3 outlines denial’s dysfunction and offers several activities to realize God’s truth. Also included is an outline of guilt and shame after abortion.

Addressing Anger

Anger is a God-given emotion. Furthermore, how we handle it can cause problems, particularlly when it turns to wrath and seeks revenge. Module 4 outlines post-abortive anger and helps identify ways to process it in a healthy manner.

Forgiveness

There is no sin God cannot forgive. After abortion many struggle to forgive themselves. Module 5 outlines three separate elements of forgiveness – receiving it from God, offering it to others and forgiving oneself for making this choice.

Grieving Your Loss

Since abortion is a choice, society does not recognize this as a loss that needs to be grieved.  Module Six introduces a peaceful way to  to remember children lost through abortion and honor their brief lives which enhances God’s healing process as well.

Joy Comes in the Mourning

By naming and grieving aborted children, they become real people in our hearts. We will one day meet them in Heaven. This module helps you honor their lives and bring closure to your heart from God.

Shattering Sexual Soul Ties

Scripture is clear that when two people come together sexually outside of marriage the consequences can be greater than other sins. Therefore this module works through issues of sexual purity with God’s help!

Sharing the Secret

When healing is achieved, many want to help others to make a better choice than abortion.  This optional module is for those who feel led to share their abortion story and includes detailed procedures to prepare you to share publicly or privately.

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