Module Six: Grieving Your Loss
Embracing grief after abortion has massive rewards that are outlined in Psalm 126:4-6 NIV – Restore our fortunes, Lord, like streams in the Negev. Those who sow with tears will reap with songs of joy. Those who go out weeping, carrying seed to sow, will return with songs of joy, carrying sheaves with them.
Grief and joy don’t seem to go together but they do! I never want to “get over” missing my aborted child or my parents, who are now in heaven. Thinking about them can make me cry or laugh depending on the memory. When expected grief comes, like on their birthdays, anniversary dates or just looking through photos, I can weep again. I miss them. Crying brings God’s comfort close to my heart. By embracing this grief, I relieve my burden and receive God’s warm love.
Focused grief means openly embracing any level of potential sorrow and allowing tears to flow freely when they arrive. Whatever triggers abortion grief, realize tears are essential in the ongoing healing process.
Lamentations 2:18-19 shares more on God’s purpose in our mourning our aborted children – The hearts of the people cry out to the Lord. You walls of the Daughter of Zion, let your tears flow like a river day and night; give yourself no relief, your eyes no rest. Arise, cry out in the night, as the watches of the night begin; pour out your heart like water in the presence of the Lord. Lift up your hands to him for the lives of your children…
This module will help you begin to realize your grief and begin to embrace it so that you reach the joy that awaits you when God’s restoration process in your life is complete!
While abortion is a death experience, rarely do post-abortive people give themselves permission to grieve. Tears actually are an important part of our immune system. It’s essential to give yourself permission to cry as tears will actually lead to a deeper level of peace in your heart.