Grandparent Abortion Pain
Abortion impacts every life it touches. The silent fingers of abortion reach into many lives and across all generational lines. The pain a grandparent of an aborted child can endure can be like that of the mother or father. Many do not realize that they have a need and a right to grieve this loss, even if the baby’s parents may not be able to do the same. This book contains a step-by-step process to help you find God’s healing.
Grandparents are not alone in this pain. With over 4,000 abortions every day in the U.S. it is impossible to count abortion’s extended wounded. These include family, friends, co-workers, youth ministers, pastors, pregnancy center staff, doctors, nurses and more. Virtually anyone who is remotely involved with a man/woman who aborts can suffer adverse effects from the abortion. While this book is designed to help grandparents, it can assist anyone who has been impacted by someone else’s abortion.
Abortion’s extended wounded are everyday people. The extent and type of pain often depend upon the level of involvement in the abortion decision. It is heartbreaking for parents to discover the abortion years after the fact, realizing their child did not turn to them in time of need.
Others who participated in/encouraged an abortion decision can feel pain immediately. They can also feel guilt for taking the choice away from their children and observing the resulting trauma. It can take many days/months/years for the full truth of the situation to settle on their hearts.
If you have experienced abortion personally, please prayerfully consider completing Healing Modules 1-9 on this website. That course can certainly bless your heart and help you process this grandparent pain in a healthy and Godly manner.
This book contains a step-by-step process to help grandparents – as well as anyone impacted by someone else’s abortion – address this loss to find peace with themselves and God. With 50 plus years of ministry experience, this book includes all that we have learned to help you understand how this abortion(s) has touched your life to walk you through the emotions of healing with God’s help.
The Ramah International team is here to help you in this healing journey. While this site is designed to be used individually, we are available to help you in any way in a completely confidential manner. Please feel free to contact us as you navigate through this site and know that we will be praying for you!
The Choice to Heal
God knows my name and hears me when I call out to Him
A voice is heard in Ramah, mourning and great weeping, Rachel weeping for her children and refusing to be comforted, because her children are no more. Jeremiah 31:15
Understanding how this abortion impacted your heart is often the first step in the healing process.
A Grandmother’s Story
For what credit is there if, when you sin and are harshly treated, you endure it with patience? But if when you do what is right and suffer for it you patiently endure it, this finds favor with God. For you have been called for this purpose since Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example for you to follow in His steps. I Peter 2:20-21
I share my story to educate on the perspective of grandparent pain after abortion and to help post-abortive women/men understand their parent’s pain.
God’s Love is Greater Than Anything I Have Done
For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him, shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through Him. John 3:16-17
Abortion reaches across all generational lines, whether the family realizes it or not. Each abortion impacts the current generation and the next generation, and so on.
The Emotional Snares of Denial
God’s grace is medicine for our wounded soul
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. Jeremiah 29:11-13
Denial provides a protective barrier around our heart to help us cope with the reality of abortion. God provided us with the emotion of denial to endure difficult times.
Anger and Bitterness
God gives us hope when we release our anger
Be angry, and yet do not sin: do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not give the devil an opportunity. Ephesians 4:26-27
When anger is expressed inappropriately, it can be very destructive to anyone unfortunate enough to be in its path. Destructive anger can hurt both people and relationships.
Grace, Mercy and Forgiveness
God gives hope and a future
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13
Grace is a gift from God that we cannot earn and do not deserve. God’s mercy means we do not receive the punishment we deserve for the sins we have committed.
God wants to use our emotions for good
O wall of the Daughter of Zion, let your tears flow like a river day and night; give yourself no relief, your eyes no rest. Arise, cry out in the night, as the watches of the night begin; pour out your heart like water in the presence of the Lord. Lift up your hands to him for the lives of your children… Lamentations 2:18-19
Abortion is touted as the “right and responsible” thing to do in an unexpected pregnancy. Yet loss and grief continues, often unnoticed by others.
God is our comforter
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland. Isaiah 43:18-19
Many generations can be impacted by one single event. One person can change the course of history for the entire family.
Where Do We Go From Here?
God makes a new path
He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners…. to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion – to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. Isaiah 61:1-3
The only way to heal the pain that will not heal itself is ask God for forgiveness and then apply forgiveness to the person who hurt you.