God’s Purpose in Abortion Pain

Abortion Pain

“I’ve confessed my sin, Sydna, to you and God,” the woman outlined. “I’ve attended an abortion recovery program too. Why isn’t the pain gone now? Why isn’t God healing me faster?”

Post-abortive women can spend a lot of emotional energy in denying or forgetting their abortion ever happened. When the truth that a tiny human being was lost in the abortion process, emotional and spiritual pain can overwhelm our hearts, throwing us into long-denied grief. Painful thoughts about our past choices are hard to address because they hurt!

So why doesn’t God just take away this pain when we come and confess our sin to Him? We all know that is within His power.

Whatever you may think, God doesn’t enjoy watching His children suffer. He has a reason for us to experience this pain if He requires that we endure it. God does not waste our pain. 

When God took the curtains off my eyes – showing me that I had lost a human being in choosing abortion – the initial revelation was overwhelming. I could not stop crying or thinking of this child in heaven. Sadly, it took eleven years for me to get to that point.

My family was surprised at my instant agony. My husband asked, “Why bring all of that up now? It’s in the past and is better forgotten, right?”

“The pain is sticking in my throat. I can’t swallow it anymore. I must face the truth of my sin in choosing abortion!” I responded.

He understood that word picture and agreed to support me in God’s healing process. He also reviewed the abortion recovery study to ensure it was based on God’s word. After each class, we would sit together and review how God was moving in my heart, which brought us much closer as a couple.

My expectations were for God to step in miraculously and heal all my emotional and psychological pain. He obviously forgave me, but He chose not to heal my heart instantly.

God knew about all the other sins that I committed after my abortion that had to be confessed as well. That work required confessing each additional transgression with God’s help long after this class was completed. Because He created me, God understood my heart could only bear so much at one time.

As I waited for my abortion recovery class to begin, I thought of other fast ways to heal. Perhaps sharing my secret publicly could be a way to obtain quick healing? Being the first woman to speak publicly about my abortion on a radio broadcast that reached millions should have earned me some relief, right?  Wrong.  

Then I hoped that God using me to save one child from abortion could produce a deeper level of restoration. That didn’t work either, even though a wonderful life was saved.

There were times when I wondered, “Is this agony God’s way of punishing me for choosing abortion?” That idea didn’t sit well in my soul because I knew God’s character to be gentle, merciful and forgiving.   

God then helped me embrace His plan for my life included experiencing this pain deeply and working through it with His help. The ache wasn’t His punishment but simply a consequence of my abortion choice.

Embracing the pain and the soul searching during my abortion recovery program really helped me heal. While it wasn’t quick, it has endured over the years. That healing and maturity in Christ, gained by experiencing that pain deeply, allowed me to do great things with God’s help ever since.

Over the years I have met a handful of women who truly did experience miraculous healing from this pain quickly.  Most did not know God at the time of their abortions. Their salvation experience then included their abortion confession. That initial salvation freed them of most of this pain. God clearly can heal our hearts any way He wants. But “instant healing” is rare after abortion.

I’m fully grateful that God loved me enough to know that the process of grieving was good for my heart. By withholding immediate healing, God’s discipline was to let me face every angle of the pain of this choice. He would also use this healing season to teach me love for others who had yet to be reached with the hope of His healing.

Just as Jesus needed to come to earth to “walk in our shoes” as humans, I needed to walk through and understand my own pain before I could help anyone else. In Psalm 94:12-15, David writes, Blessed is the one you discipline, Lord, the one you teach from your law; you grant them relief from days of trouble, till a pit is dug for the wicked. For the Lord will not reject his people; he will never forsake his inheritance.  Judgment will again be founded on righteousness, and all the upright in heart will follow it.

If God simply removed the pain, we may not learn the intimate details of His love, mercy and grace. This pain is something we need to understand in order to avoid sinning in the future, as revealed in Hebrews 12:7-11Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as his children. For what children are not disciplined by their father? If you are not disciplined—and everyone undergoes discipline—then you are not legitimate, not true sons and daughters at all. Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of spirits and live! They disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness.  No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.

Because I was a Christian when I chose abortion, I walked away from His Holy Spirit’s presence when I left that abortion clinic. Then I believed that God had rejected me due to my abortion sin. Truth was, He didn’t leave me – I left Him. Eleven years later, I longed to “partake” in His holiness once again. That longing for God was the main motivator in embracing His abortion healing process.

The emotional and spiritual pain of abortion is a temporary condition. Tens of thousands of us have survived the truth of our choices, grieved our child(ren), allowed God’s love to help us forgive those who harmed us (including ourselves) and come to the point of peace where God can use us in His kingdom. That healing is deep and changes us deeply in a good way!

Please have hope that you won’t feel this pain forever. Ask God to give you moments of peace to understand His love and discipline. He won’t desert you and is always close to the brokenhearted!

Sydna Masse Event Speaker Pregnancy Center

Hello, I am Sydna Massé Founder and CEO of Ramah International. I'd love to keep in touch and include you in our prayer chain as we continue to serve abortion's wounded and those considering abortion. Sydna Masse

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